Kindness Over Criticism: Why Women Deserve Each Other's Support
There’s a troubling pattern I keep seeing online, and it breaks my heart a little every time.
Women, often in the name of “telling it like it is,” are tearing down other women for the choices they make to feel good in their skin.
- A mom gets lip filler, and she’s “fake.”
- A woman wears makeup to the gym, and she’s “trying too hard.”
- Someone shares her weight loss journey, and she’s “toxic diet culture” or “cheated by using drugs.”
- A woman posts a new style or routine, and suddenly she’s an “influencer fraudster.”
And worst of all? Some of the loudest critics are other women.
The Irony of the “Callout Culture”
What’s fascinating and deeply ironic is that many of the women doing the loudest calling out are also trying to build influence.
Their message often boils down to:
“Don’t listen to her…listen to me.”
So, we swap one woman’s opinion for another, just wrapped in different packaging.
But here’s the truth: there’s room for more than one way to live a life.
Judgment Often Masks Something Else
Sometimes, judgment is just envy wearing a different outfit.
We see another woman do something we wish we could pull off, or afford, or have the confidence to try. And instead of curiosity, we choose criticism.
We ridicule:
- “She must be insecure.”
- “She’s just trying to get attention.”
- “That’s so unnecessary.”
But deep down, maybe we’re wondering:
- “Could I ever feel that confident?”
- “Would that make me feel beautiful, too?”
We’re All an N of 1
Here’s the thing: Every woman is an N of 1. A unique individual soul.
What works for one woman’s health, confidence, beauty, or joy may not work for another.
- One woman might thrive going makeup-free. Another loves a full glam routine.
- Some feel best in yoga pants. Others adore high heels.
- Some individuals opt for weight loss drugs or supplements to feel healthier and more confident. Others prefer lifestyle changes alone.
- One woman wants to embrace every wrinkle as a badge of honor. Another chooses Botox, and both are valid.
Different choices don’t make one woman “better” or “worse.” They simply make us different. None of which makes anyone more worthy or less authentic!
Choosing Curiosity Over Criticism
Instead of tearing each other down, imagine if we:
Got curious instead of judgmental.
→ “I wonder if something like that could make me feel good?”
Respected boundaries.
→ “That’s not for me, but I’m glad they are happy.”
Recognize there’s no single “right way.”
→ “Her path is hers. Mine is mine.”
Because women are not the same! We’re individuals with different histories, desires, and comfort zones.
Kindness is Revolutionary
There’s enough space for:
- Women who love high maintenance routines
- Women who keep it low-key
- Women who talk openly about body changes
- Women who prefer privacy
- Women who share every detail on social media
- Women who keep their phones off
No one’s journey is the same.
Let’s be a Source of Support and Encouragement for One Another
Imagine how powerful we’d be if women stopped attacking each other and instead offered:
- Kindness
- Curiosity
- Grace
- A willingness to let each other live
Because ultimately:
Another woman’s joy does not threaten your own.
Let’s choose to celebrate each other’s confidence and the things that make us feel good, even when our choices look different on the outside.
That’s how we make this world better, for every woman.
Ready to Build Your Confidence from the Inside Out?
If you’re ready to stop the comparison trap and start supporting yourself (and other women) with more kindness and less judgment, let’s talk.
Book a free Discovery Call to explore how wellness coaching can help you build unshakeable confidence that comes from within - not from external validation or criticism of others.
Let’s create a foundation of self-love and body confidence that radiates outward, making you a source of light for every woman in your circle.
With purpose,
Brooke
Certified Integrative Health Practitioner | Founder, Kestra Health
Whole Body Wellness from the Inside Out